Surviving the Holidays-or Not
Whenever the holidays creep up, I swear it will be better than before. As if magically the world I live in will fit my agenda. Instead of turkey on a platter, I received a shattered fantasy. Where did I go wrong? What happened to my best-laid plans?
As I sat through Thanksgiving, once again alone, I looked around and said, “No More, Jasmine. You don’t need to live this way. My family might be gone, but it doesn’t mean I can’t create an active family. A shift in attitude is required to change my lot, and it laid in my ability to change my energy so my vibration will attract what I seek.
Is there another way? I’m tired of the hollowness felt during holidays. I’m tired, tried as I might to enjoy the holidays, to fall dismally into loneliness and depression.
Could use the Beyond the Veil’s manual for Law of Attraction work here? Why not? It saved my life. Today, there is another area in my life that needs rescuing.
I’ve chosen to stop living in a world of expectations that this year will be different. November won’t take my breath away, as my late husband and my wedding anniversary come, and a week later Thanksgiving. This year I decided to spend the holiday by myself. I drew out the plans and believed I had it made. I crashed hard over those two weeks, and yet it is in this falling I realized, I starving to belong. When you finally get hungry enough, you will change the foundation you are standing on today.
Is there another way I can handle this?
Yes, and I am. The first step is accepting my life as it is now. If you are alone in this world, it’s up to you to create the ‘magic’ holidays bring to us. If you are with the family, it is up to you to know you don’t hold the magical key that creates a reality that fits your orders. If you are out with friends, remember your belief system most likely doesn’t match theirs. We all have a difference in our core beliefs. Its this attitude this year I can resolve tension, in any area that will become your demise. It just won’t work. Life will not paint the picture you have in your mind.
Today, I cannot change, but with acceptance and the ability to let go, I begin the new adventure of shifting my energy to a different story next year at this time.
It’s time to accept the rest of this year will go precisely as our emotions mapped out. For me, I often mention I am alone. What I don’t say are the underlying feelings. Desertions, chopped liver (second best ), carrying a plague, (I’m weird and a medium/channeler.) these sentences drive my car. They are the GPS of my creation and will make sure I arrive at my destination.
It is here I need to stop and unplug my emotional GPS. To survive the holidays is to create a different energy. It’s a work in progress. I know that, however, what do I do today? I look around and It’s still the same.
Today, I begin to imagine. Imagery is a critical factor in reprogramming the emotional GPS. I follow these steps.
- I permit myself to hurt. I don’t blame it on anyone, or myself. Its old programs are doing their job. It’s all it knows. I
- I can work hard today to have no expectations for the winter holidays. I might achieve a better scale than a year ago, and I might not. I know I can’t wiggle my nose and have people to share presents with and a meal. That’s over for this moment. I can though create a different outcome if I work the progress.
- I can take five to ten minutes out and entertain my inner child. It seriously helps us, and play is a way. my inner child loves sparkles, so I take ten minutes to play with anything that sparkles. It’s a cleansing method and will notice the sadness left.
Your world might not include being alone. You can have another area that snags you. The above tools can serve you. Disappointments happened. Tomorrow, I will speak more about how to minimize their effects.