Step 3: Finding the Core Pulse of the Self-Saboteur
Your self -saboteur and the victim can become great allies after the peeling of layers ends. Welcome to next step. Jasmine discovered. The damsel and doormat rose out of other layers, hiding beneath the surface, which protected her memory from recognizing the culprit.
With the victim and saboteur on the scene, they would become the damsel’s best buddies. Remember the self-saboteur is the car you drive. It knows one route. You programmed it to keep you a victim. If you dared to go a different direction the subconscious would hound you until you returned to your everyday routine. It would remind you, this person has done you wrong. Victim images would constantly flash through your mind. To stop this, you had to have a stronger belief. Jasmine believed, through her husband’s encouraging words about her changes, the damsel and victim died.
Evidently not. Jasmine’s mind, throughout their marriage, played out a battle between the dependent and the independent woman. Those moments where the independent female rose, were seen through his eyes. His approval. His compliments. After his death, the independent woman became only a memory.
What would hold her to this victim? Why would she seek to embrace it? The subconscious is still programmed. It hadn’t unplugged from old beliefs. It hadn’t created a new reality. She only knew the old routes. To stop this vicious cycle, we had to start to find the real culprit. The damsel was only an expression of this perpetrator.
Often, one concept that has programmed the subconscious, is the breeder of the other characteristics. We walked her step by step until she remembered what it was. To do this, we began a similar program we do in the spirit realms. We taught her the I Am Love and I am Loving chant to use throughout the day, especially when her fears, based on old programming rise.
A Time for Peeling away descriptions.
After my husband’s death, I feared to die alone, which shocked me. In the past, I have counseled others with this same apprehension. To discover it had taken over me left confusion. I decided to map the pattern my damsel used after my husband’s death. She led me spiraling down into the alleys of sociopaths.
During those six years, I recalled how I would watch myself, as I became a foreigner. Why did I pick men who would not support my vision? Why did I keep attracting those who offer zero safety?
In the law of attraction, we invite what is always on our mind. Though I sought someone to save me, my thoughts kept me in the victim and damsel role. The saboteur made sure I stayed on the right roads. To my surprise, my life reinforced the same avenues I had traveled before I met my late husband. How did this happen? As explained, the programming never shifted. What I didn’t realize when I met my husband, I was not living from those patterns. The ones that my husband met had quieted the damsel briefly.
Who or what is controlling the damsel, was the million-dollar question, which began the process for healing. While my spirit group started to help me understand the need for boundaries, my own beliefs that governed the damsel appeared. began to pop up and revealed my hidden belief.
People pleasing, doormat, and the victim all aided my bottom line belief. I will not amount to anything. I will need someone to take care of me. For years this instituted my behaviors and my living conditions. It took me three years to recall this sentence. It has a way to hide, while my other traits kept me in line. I realized I wasn’t the victim. My parents passed down concepts given to them by their parents. I didn’t need to accept them as truth. Forgiveness and love would be the keys to transporting me out of those patterns.
The Hippie Ghost Band taught me the I Am Love Variation. This I will teach more on in the Beyond the Veil Law of Attraction and how it is used to recreate our whole essence.
Jasmine Renee Abbott